So they ask the mother, ‘How come you cut all the ends off the ham before you bake it?’ ‘Because that’s the way grandmother always did it,’
the mother says.So they ask the grandmother,‘Why did you always cut all the ends off the ham before you
Helen Keller once said that ” the most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but has no vision.” Our success and happiness depend on asking the right questions. The right purpose provide us with a sense of direction, helping us resolve problems and overcome dilemmas. A vision can be described as seeing things are not immediately visible — a desired future state. A vision provides us with a purpose in life, giving it meaning and direction. Our inner strengths — character, integrity and values — help us to overcome these dilemmas. They help us stay focused.
How often do we examine our focus? Not often. Keeping things in focus gives us the power to qualitatively change the way we feel, think and live. When you drive a vehicle, what is your focus? Aren’t you totally focused and manoeuvre the vehicle skillfully? Do you concentrate on sundry other things? Not really. There is always a need to examine your focus and change it from negative to positive. Examine whether you are focusing on pain or pleasure. You get what you focus on. (Change your focus from being negative to positive).
Cricketing icon Sachin Tendulkar is a perfect role model for millions of young people, who are dazzled by his talent, his money and his power. Tendulkar’s achievements in the field of cricket are indeed extraordinary. But how did he develop that extraordinary passion for the game? Tendulkar developed his cricketing skills through persistence and his infinite capacity to take pains. He was not a natural genius, but has successfully identifies the seed of genius within him and nurtured it through hard work, commitment and passion. It’s his intense focus, honestly, discipline and burning desire to excel that have made what he is today. He excels when chips are down, and is an excellent example of a homegrown product of upcompromising excellence, tested fire in the most trying and hostile circumstances. This is the hallmark of a quality man.
All you need is talent, self-belief, an unflinching capacity to work, depth of character to overcome defeat as well as victory while remaining true to your vision.
Examine your focus by answering these questions :
These questions work as powerful tools, which can define our future with greater predictability. (Set goals, which are real and genuine).
There are three things that are essential for success – attitude, skills and knowledge. In other words, the ASK formula.
Attitude is nothing but a state of mind that directs our action in daily life. It is a kind of mental orientation. We are all products of our attitudes – whether negative or positive – and it is important to examine them from time to time discover their real impact on our lives.
SKILLS AND COMPETENCIES:
A skill can be described as an ability to do something or to apply a concept or idea; competence is the ability and willingness to do it. Skills and competencies are as importance as knowledge and are critical component of a composite leadership development.
It’s a key element of success. The right kind of knowledge enables us to correctly identify facts, helping us to acquire a better understanding of the internal and external environments. Some people equate good education with good knowledge. The reality however is quite to the contrary. Good grades in examination do not guarantee high knowledge levels: degrees or grades that have been acquired through cramming, for instance, are of little value in real-life situations. The route to rule knowledge has to pass through the valleys and passes of great character, discipline, commitment and timely activation of dormant capacities, energies and intelligence.
A positive attitude is the first stepping stone to success
What distinguishes successful people from the rest of the pack is a positive attitude: a positive attitude leads to positive behavior and ultimate to success. This is important if we are to optimize our potential and capacities; in a vast majority of people these remain grossly under-utilized. A positive attitude is a potent force; a negative attitude, on the other hand, prevents us from our full potential.
Inventor Thomas Alva Edison made 10,000 attempts before he perfected the light bulb. Any other person would have quit the scene, but Edison refused to give up. Now people with a negative mindset might say that Edison failed 10,000 times before he succeeded. However, the fact is that Edison discovered 10,000 ways of not failing.
A positive attitude is also the first step towards tracking everyday problems – be it personal or professional. You see everything that happens around and within you through the filter of your attitudes. Since many events are beyond your control, you can neither choose what happens to you, nor guarantee success and happiness. But you can definitely choose how you feel about these happenings or how you react to them. A positive mindset allows you to have mental ability and the strength to be happier and take things in your stride. In today’s fast-changing environment, most people feel that it is not so easy to succeed and move ahead. As I have said earlier, it’s all about attitude. If you think you can win, the changes are that you will; if you feel that you can’t, you probably won’t.
A positive attitude always leads to:
The poem by an unknown author below beautifully sums up people with high energies, confidence and a positive attitude.
There is nothing to fear – you’re as good as the best,
As strong as the mightiest, too
You can win in every battle or test;
For there’s no one just like you
There’s only one you in the world today;
So nobody else, you see,
Can do your work in as fine a way,
You’re the only you there’ll be!
So face the world, and all life is yours,
To conquer and love and live;
And you’ll find the happiness that endures
In just the measure you give;
There’s nothing too good for you to possess,
Nor heights where you cannot go;
Your power is more that belief or guess,
It is something you have to know
There is nothing to fear – you can and you will
For you are the invincible you,
Set your foot on the highest hill,
There’s nothing you cannot do
People with a positive attitude are energetic and take initiative. They don’t sit back for want of opportunities. They act and make the opportunities if they don’t find one.
After a performance in the court, King Akbar told Tansen that he was the best singer. Tansen thanked the king but corrected him humbly by saying that there was someone who could sing better than him, his Guru. On hearing this Akbar was delighted to hear Guru sing. But Tansen made it clear that his Guru would not come to the court & he does not sing for earthly rewards.
King Akbar & Tansen started off to Guru’s residence, a case on the hills. At dawn, Guru went to the river, bathed & started singing in his melodious voice. The whole surrounding was immersed in his voice. While returning Akbar asked Tansen, “There was some magic in his voice that’s incomplete in yours. What makes his voice so different? Tansen replied, “Huzoor, I sing for thee, but he sings for divine.”
Tansen sang with an intention to satisfy the king & win earthly reward whereas Guru sang for his own satisfaction, with full involvement & found more happiness in it.
Once a sage was passing through a village. He saw men working in the scratching sun, seemed like Mother nature was being cruel to them. They were carrying heavy stones. He approached one of the worker & asked, ”What are you doing ?“ He replied angrily, ”Can’t you see what am I doing?”. He asked another person “What is being constructed?” He answered,“ I don’t know I have nothing to do with it. I get my pay at the end of the day then why bother.”
The sage continued. On enquiring with another worker he knew a temple was being build. Further he“Why are you so happy?” asked the sage. “I heard a temple in being constructed here. I wanted to help. It is a rare opportunity one gets in ones life. No other work can make me happier.” did not find a man who was working happily in the hot sun
In this story we come across four people who thought differently. The first one is working due to compulsion & is not at all happy to work, second, with an aim of earring, third was partly involved in his work, fourth working happily.
If we do something on our own without any compulsion we do it better. It’s something we do for our satisfaction & not to satisfy others. Even if it is a small thing we did, we will be able to find greater happiness & beauty in it.
Slavery existed in America when Abraham Lincoln was elected as the 16th President. A debate to bring an end to slavery was going on. In northern states, public supported this view. Industrial development was taking place & they needed free mobility of labor. On the other hand, in southern status agriculture was the main occupation & the number of slaves one had, determined ones power.
Government started taking necessary steps to eradicate slavery. In South, masters started selling their slaves to different places. Once a child of a slave was left behind, he was not grown enough to start working. A woman started looking after him. After 2-3 years his mistress put him in charge of the garden. Very soon he turned out to be an expert in the assigned work. By seeing his interest to know things and ability to grasp quickly his mistress decided to educate him. He was sent to a nearby school. He passed out with highest marks in the district.
For his high school studies, he was sent to town. To meet his necessities he worked in a laundry. He would spend his night in a farm on the outskirts since he had no place to live in the town & would return before dawn. After a year or two the owner of the farm discovered it. But he let the boy continue because his stay had put an end to the robbery that had been taking place. He struggled hard to cross the hurdles whites created for him. It is hard to swim against the current.
He passed his high school with flying colors & wanted to continue his studies. It was sure he would not be admitted in a college in southern states. So he moved north & got admitted in a government college. He had to live in hostel and to meet his expenses he started laundering. He completed his post graduation & went for Ph.D.
After completion of his studies, Government offered him a job. He started a research and invented many things. One of them was, he made seventy-six substances out of groundnut grain. Later, a university was found in his name.
” Success comes from knowing that you did your best to
become the best that you are capable of becoming“.
With enthusiasm of a child waiting for his Grandpa to start with the story, we waited for Doshi Sir to start. The narration of the story in a rhythmic style and popping eyes with eagerness filled the classroom with an atmosphere of suspense.
The story was about a kingdom,
Fate of the kings who ruled it & its subject. A king lost his throne because he did not look after the welfare of his subjects. Death was the punishment they gave their king. He was tied up & put in a boat with the instruction to the rower to leave him in the forest on the other side of the river.
Since then in this kingdom, there was need for a king. They decided to select a king amongst themselves on a condition that the king may have his powers for five years but on the last day of the fifth year he would be tied up & sent to the forest. Thereafter whoever became the king tried to hide themselves to escape the punishment at the end of five years. Unfortunately they never succeed.
Similar such a day arrived. The day to send the king to the forest arrived. As usual the subject went searching for the king throughout the kingdom. Unable to find him they returned to the palace. They were surprised to see the king seated on his throne & waiting for them. He had only one desire, his journey to the forest must be in a royal manner. In astonishment they arranged for it ‘How can a man welcome death so happily?” was the thought that disturbed them.
On their way to the forest, the rower asked the king, “How can you be so happy when your end is near?” The king smiled and answered, “I am not facing death now, I am in the joy of being welcomed as a king. When I was crowned as the king. I knew what would happen. So within five years of my rule I got a part of the forest cleared and set up a kingdom there. Now I have my own kingdom & my subject is waiting for me.”
The five years in college is the time in our lives where we live as kings but latter loose everything if we have not set our lives.
Till now we have been travelling through a tunnel, a tunnel where comfort was the darkness that surrounded us. There is a world beyond it, shining in light & filled with opportunities. At the same time, like the wild animals in the forest there are dangers which are invisible even in daylight.
So let us be wise & follow the example of the king who setup a kingdom for himself. Let us set up our lives for the future, identify our goals in life and prepare ourselves for it.
‘Time & Tide waits for none’ Time that is gone can never be brought back or stood. Our daily activities are mainly of 4 types. Crises – Important & urgent, Planning – important but not urgent & entertainment – not important & urgent.
Entertainment is important for mental relaxation but the time allotted to it should be limited. Delegation is work that you can get it done from others. Planning is needed to conduct things smoothly. If there is no proper planning, task entrusted to you may not be completed on time & it turns into crises. When time falls short of this stage, the time we allocate to entertainment is utilized here. If this continues for a longer time it can lead to mental disorder. Value of time cannot be determined.
Once a fisherman went to a river in a forest, for fishing. After trying for several times he did not get anything. It was turning dark & he decided to stay back. After every few minutes he castled his net into the river. After several try he felt something caught in his net. It was heavy. After pulling the net he found a bag full of stones. He was annoyed. To pass his time he started throwing the stones into the river one-by-one. It was dawn. In the mild sunlight he realized that what he thought was mere stones were precious stones. The bag was half empty by now. He would do nothing but only regret. He could not get back what was lost.
Time is like these precious stones which we ourselves waste without knowing the value & when we realize its value very little of it is left with us. We have limited time & much work to do ‘At last its not the years in life but life in years that count.’
” LOST TIME IS NEVER FOUND AGAIN “
To hit the target of your life you must have firm determination & work hard. If you keep on changing your target you will never be able to achieve any one from the ones you have decided.
In a small village there lived a boy who was sad because his Mom had not prepared cake for Christmas. They were poor & could not afford it. His Mom said that they were poor because his Dad never thought of becoming rich. By hearing this he made up his mind to become a rich man, the world’s richest man & he did. It started with a small boy’s desire of having a cake but ended up in making him a richest man – Bill Gates.
‘Where there is a will, there is a way’
With firm determination & hard work, you are surely going to achieve your goal.
Two Children got into a train with their father. They sat opposite to each other. They were mischievous & grew restless. This disturbed their co-passengers who asked their father to control them. Father said in a sad voice, “I’m thinking what shall I tell them. Their mother, who was serious & admitted in the hospital passed away.
I don’t know how shall I tell this to them. How are their innocent hearts going to take it?” By hearing this everyone started looking at the children through the eyes of sympathy. Their attitude towards them had changed.
There are situations in our life where we see only one side of the matter & jump into wrong conclusions. It’s said “Half knowledge is dangerous”, so it is always better to have complete knowledge. By knowing the whole situation we will be able to a take a good decision. We can wait for a while and try to understand the complete situation & make better decisions instead of making decisions before knowing everything & then regretting on it.
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